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Beauty By The Book

Beauty By The Book

It’s so easy to forget that we were fearfully and wonderfully made in God’s image and He wants to see true beauty in our hearts, not just in our fleeting external appearances.

I believe that women should be beautiful—God designed us to be that way. Our skin, hair and other features were created to be soft and appealing, and our body was fashioned to be attractive and beautiful to men. Women were designed to be attractive; I love to look really good- I like my makeup, shoes, clothes and jewelries to be just on point. I love to enter a room and hear people give me compliments while I smile nicely at them and say thank you. Sometimes when I think about it, I don’t think my husband would have found me attractive at first sight if I did not look so beautiful. However, the physical side of beauty is just a small part of what makes me truly beautiful.

A truly beautiful woman is physically appealing, but fortunately, this is not the only prerequisite for beauty. The Book puts it this way:

(They) will be captivated by your life of holy beauty. What matters is not your outer appearance—the styling of your hair, the jewelry you wear, the cut of your clothes—but your inner disposition. Cultivate inner beauty, the gentle, gracious kind that God delights in. The holy women of old were beautiful before God that way, and were good, loyal wives to their husbands.  1 Peter 3:3-4 (The Message)

The Bible is not saying that the outer appearance doesn’t matter. It is saying: What matters is not you outer appearance. In other words, don’t let your physical beauty define you. Don’t let it cause you undue stress. Don’t make it your most important priority. Don’t let it replace the more important parts of your life.

A beautiful woman is not only admired for her physical appearance; she is admired for inner qualities as well. There are many inner qualities that make a woman truly beautiful and below are three of them from the Book that strikes me-

Kindness-  a truly beautiful woman is gracious. Proverbs 11:16 tells us that a gracious woman retains honor. When you think of the women that you hold in high regard, they usually are ladies who are kind, gentle, thoughtful, unselfish, etc. They are the women that we look up to and remember. Women who are gracious and kind are attractive.

Good judgment- in Proverbs11:22 we see that a beautiful woman who lacks discretion is compared to a ring of gold in a swine’s snout. If a woman is physically attractive, but lacks discretion, it takes away from her beauty and value. Good judgment is needed in many areas of life such as moral issues, money matters, choices, decisions, dealing with others, work, etc. A woman who possesses good judgment is of great value because she can be trusted to do the right thing.

Continuous improvement- Proverbs 31 describes a woman who is competent and capable of doing many different things. A woman who continues to grow while developing her talents and abilities is a woman of value. She is one who is able to contribute to others through these abilities, and she will be of use to her family, Church, community, etc. A woman who is developing her potential is an attractive woman.

Beyond it all, a truly beautiful woman is not only attractive on the outside and inside; she is also attractive to God. How a woman looks to God is more important than any other quality she possesses because her outer beauty will fade and her inner beauty will cease, but the beauty that God sees in her will be important when she stands before Him. A woman who is beautiful to God is a woman who puts God first in her life and strives to do what He has commanded. She continually deepens her relationship with Him and grows spiritually.

By the Book, a wholly beautiful woman is one who is beautiful on the outside, beautiful on the inside and best of all, beautiful to God.

Work In Progress

Work In Progress

Work In Progress

A very dear one to my heart released a couple of songs a few days ago and even though I got to listen to both songs before they were released ( wife benefits :D)  I did not really listen to the lyrics especially of the song titled ‘Work In Progress’ until after it was released and it inspired this post.

We are all work in progress… we all have stories in our past and maybe in our present too that we are not so proud to tell. I don’t claim to be perfect, I’m not even anywhere near perfection, I still have a handful of flaws that God is helping me get rid of, but I’ve realized that sometimes God wont wipe away all our flaws in a twinkle; even though we are brand new when we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior, those flaws are still there and we have to deal with it daily. I believe that this happens so we can help others who might be dealing with the same struggles.

Remember Paul in the bible, he asked God to take away his flaw three times but God said His grace was sufficient. And that’s exactly what grace means- that we are work in progress. It’s because of His grace that God can look into our hearts and see past the sin and filth. It’s because of grace that our accuser the devil cannot get a hold on us. His grace is sufficient to help us overcome our struggles and daily deny our flesh.

The amazing thing about God is that He hardly uses anyone who is perfect. Remember when Jesus was about to start His Ministry, He did not go to the church to pick 12 priests who would be His disciples, He chose men on the streets who were nothing close to being holy such as Matthew who was a tax collector and tax collectors were extortionists and known for living excessive immoral lives; but did Matthew suddenly become a saint after Jesus told him to follow Him?

Dear one shared a series of tweets about the story behind the song and I have shared them below. I hope it inspires you and helps you realize that no matter your struggle, God is still working in you and He’s not done with you yet.

I hope I can find good time to do this kinda thing often. You know; share a bit of any of my experiences so far with you. #BehindTheSong

Anyway, like I promised, I’m sharing the story behind one of the songs we released yday with you & that starts right away. #BehindTheSong

Yesterday we released #Gbàgbé_òshì and #WorkInProgress and the response as always, has been rather great! #BehindTheSong

The inspiration for #Gbàgbé_òshì came via a blackberry DP. Yes, a DP! I just saw it and was like, OMO.. THIS IS A SONG! #BehindTheSong

I was returning from Sports complex, passed inside Fajuyi hall, & then just before getting to Faj Annex it started raining #BehindTheSong

Heavy rain oh, so I was stuck by the tuck shop close to Faj annex cos that’s where the shade ended. #BehindTheSong

So while waiting for the rain to subside, the devil started taunting me, you know, accusations in my mind. #BehindTheSong

What was his tool? Pornography. #BehindTheSong

You see, 3 years before I got into the Uni, while I was still a nominal Christian, I had gotten hooked on pornography. #BehindTheSong

Not the straight up ‘blue films’ but the late night 16, 18, R18 movies on DSTV (thank God they’ve stopped considerably). #BehindTheSong

Late 2003 I turned a new leaf, started living for God, and so what used to be fun & without guilt was now a struggle! #BehindTheSong

There were nights I’d ‘fall’ and couldn’t pray the next morning. Would take me hours or even days to get back on track. #BehindTheSong

Sometimes I’d stay away for a long while & be happy with myself, & then one night in a house with DSTV I’d fall again. #BehindTheSong

It was just frustrating. Really, really frustrating! #BehindTheSong

So I’d gotten into OAU ife and would expectedly be free for long periods as TV nor dey. #BehindTheSong

But I think some days before this night under the rain, I’d gone visiting a relative in town and had fallen yet again. #BehindTheSong

So this night na, the devil attacked my mind so much I almost felt like a useless Christian that could never get it right #BehindTheSong

Then from nowhere, I sensed the Holy Spirit comforting me, saying I’d come a long way and was making remarkable progress. #BehindTheSong

He prompted me to sing what He was telling me, & to sing it AT the devil. This was weird cos I usually sat down to compose #BehindTheSong

But He kept at it; prompting me on and on, to just sing it with whatever melody came to my mind.. #BehindTheSong

And BAM! I just started singing the exact words and melody you probably have heard in the chorus of #WorkInProgress #BehindTheSong

“I may not be where I’m supposed to be, but I’m not where I used to, I know… (cont’d)” #BehindTheSong

“… I am work in progress and He Who’s working on me is not done with me yet.” #BehindTheSong

Those were the words on that night in 2006, and they remained the same until we released the complete song yesterday. #BehindTheSong

So that song wasn’t just composed cos I want to encourage folks, it came at one of my low points & strengthened me BIG TIME #BehindTheSong

I pray it liberates anyone struggling with a sin, weight, character flaw or whatsoever it is, choking your growth in God. #BehindTheSong

You can listen and download the song here- https://my.notjustok.com/track/download/id/9970 …

Stay Beautified!

2015… Be BEAUTIFIED

2015… Be BEAUTIFIED

So it’s 2015 and I’m still trying to wrap my head around the fact that I started this blog and I need to post as often as possible; though my goal for the year is to have one blog post monthly unless the Spirit leads otherwise.

Just incase you’re asking, the purpose of this blog is to inspire young women live a life beauty embedded in three major pillars- Purity, Purpose and passion.

I came up with an acronym definition for what it really means to be beautified and that’s what you’d be reading in the following lines…

BEAUTIFUL – be beautiful; let there be an unexplainable glow about you that makes people love you effortlessly

EXCELLENT- be sure to do everything with excellence. If you won’t give it your best, don’t bother doing it.

ADMIRABLE- be a person worthy of admiration; let people, both old and young admire and aspire to be like you.

UNIQUE – be you! Nobody can be you-er than you. Stand out in your own way. You can’t make a difference if you’re not different.

TALENTED- don’t bury your talent. Whatever your talent is, be sure to use it to bless people and glorify God.

INTELLIGENT- don’t be a beauty without brains. It’s important to know everything about something and something about everything.

FAVOURED – the only way to be truly favored is to be in tune with God’s grace. Beauty without grace is useless.

INSPIRING – let everything you do and say inspire others to think, speak and act positively.

EXCEPTIONAL – be so good at what you do that kings and nations from afar will come seeking for you.

DELIGHTFUL – be full of joy and pleasant; nobody likes to be around someone who’s always moody. Laugh. Play. Rejoice

This definition actually sums up what my entire life is about; BEAUTIFIED is who I am and so here’s my challenge to you this new year- would you be BEAUTIFIED?

Happy 2015!!

Queen

Queen

I know I have not been a faithful blogger, but that’s not to mean that I have not been a faithful writer. I realize that I write more posts on my Instagram page than I do on this blog. I would work on changing that.

Here’s a post I shared on Instagram a few days back and I thought that it would be nice to post it here as well..

I am a queen. I have absolutely no doubt about that and I wear my crown with pride daily, even though it’s invisible.

We live in a world where women are not only compelled to compete with men, but they have also been deceived into competing with other women

I strongly believe that there is a queen in every woman, but it’s a pity that not every woman is aware of this. As queens, our crowns are custom made, made only to suit its owner. Don’t worry about me taking your crown because it won’t fit, just focus on making sure yours doesn’t fall. And if it falls, be sure to pick it up and put it back in its place.

I was reading the book of Joel the other day and chapter 2 just hit me like !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Verses 7 and 8  –

“7 The invaders charge. They climb barricades. Nothing stops them. Each soldier does what he’s told, so disciplined, so determined. 8 They don’t get in each other’s way. Each one knows his job and does it. Undaunted and fearless, unswerving, unstoppable.” (MSG)

See verse 8? – They don’t get in each other’s way. Another translation says “they don’t break their ranks”! I know that I am a part of this army!

As queens and daughters (or in this case, soldiers ) of the Most High, when we do what He sends us to do with discipline and determination to fulfil all we were sent to do, there’s no way we would be getting in each other’s way or trying to take the other’s crown. When we understand that we are all queens in our own lanes and we know our job description and we are focused on doing just that, there will be no breaking of ranks, no jealousy, trying to pull each other down or any of those petty things.  Rather we will be working together as a force, taking over nations, building dynasties – undaunted, fearless and unstoppable.

So dear queen, please rest. It is not a competition. I cannot wear your crown even if you handed it to me, because it will not fit. Just make sure yours sits well on your head and if it falls sometime, you can be sure I’d be willing to help you pick it up and place it back where it belongs.

#Queen
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