Hey Beautified Ladies we are thrilled to welcome you to another edition of the #BeautifiedWomanSeries.
We hope you have loved the previous editions of this series. If you have missed any you can read them here.
Our Beautified woman of the month is Tobiloba Ajayi. If you don’t know Tobiloba we will introduce her in three words ( forgive us if this word hasn’t made it to the dictionary YET) .
She is a glass ceiling shatterer!
Yep we just said that.
Tobiloba is proof that absolutely nothing ( not even a disability) is strong enough to come between you and your dreams.
On this month’s edition of the Beautified Woman Series, Tobiloba talks to us on life, faith and a time in her life when she thought suicide was the only option.
We hope you love this interview as much as we do.
- Who is Tobiloba Ajayi and what does she do?
Tobiloba Ajayi is a child of God created for good works designed for her to do, long before she was born.She is a disability management advocate and author.
- Despite all odds, you have risen above disability and you are such an inspiration. What would you describe as your lowest point in life and how did you overcome it?
The lowest point in my life so far was the point when I became clinically depressed and suicidal. That 18 month to 2 year period was really hard.
I overcame because God held on to me. He sent me the right doctors, the right friends and the right support for that season of my life.
- Wow! can you please tell us why you became depressed?
- What were the practical steps you took to come out of depression?
- You speak boldly about your faith in God especially through your writings what’s the foundation of your faith?
The foundation of my faith is my personal experience of God. My faith has gone through trials and it has transformed from the faith of my parents to my own.
- You are a 2016 Mandela Washington Fellow please tell us how you achieved this.
I became a 2016 Mandela Washington Fellow by simply doing what I was called to do in all the places I was called to do it and doing it to the best of my ability without aiming for applause or gain.
I applied for the fellowship only because I got a direct instruction from God to do. I obeyed and the rest
- What do you consider your biggest achievement yet and why?
My biggest achievement is changed lives, either through my direct teaching or my books or my
interventions in the disability management space.
- What makes you tick?
Words are my thing. Well written or spoken, words make me tick.
- Please tell us what makes Tobiloba Ajayi so special?
Tobiloba Ajayi is special because she was made by a loving God with multiple talents with which she canbless the world.
- What song currently tops your playlist?
Korede by Mike Abdul. The song describes my current state of mind.
- Should a strong woman cry and why?
Yes, tears are in no way a sign of weakness. It actually shows that you are strong enough to feel deeply.
Even Jesus wept!
- Can you go one month without social media and what will you be doing during that time?
If I had to go one month without social media, I would be reading and writing
- Tell us one thing Tobiloba can never be caught doing?
I’ve learnt never to say ‘never’ so I will not be able to say what that is. As I have grown older, I have
realized that you don’t necessarily know what you are capable of until you’re in a situation.
- At what stage of your life did you decide that cerebral palsy would not define or limit you?
- Which woman would you absolutely love to meet and what will you do or tell her when you meet her?
Michelle Obama, I would thank her for showing the world that intelligence, womanhood, tact,
achievement and elegance and family success can go together.
- In your opinion, how can anyone who is struggling with depression come out of it?
- What is your definition of beauty?
Beauty is having the heart that sees the best in others and treats them like God treats you
- If you could talk to that young lady who feels the odds are against her in the pursuit of success what would you tell her ?
I would ask her to make sure her definition of success is God’s definition and not hers, and she should hold on to God’s hand while building a strong support system that believes in her and will help her keep going in every way.
How awesome was this interview?
Allow us to say this ‘it is not over for you.’
You may have made a lot of mistakes, you may have so many ‘valid problems’ and limiting factors but that does not mean your life has to be bland and sad.
See beyond those things limiting you and take a stand today to turn your worst pain to your biggest motivation. If you are struggling with a disability let that become your biggest motivation to succeed in life.
Your disabilities and weaknesses must not define you!