Some time ago, my husband and I were on a road trip and he got a broadcast message on his phone. After reading it, he turned and asked me, “Who are you?” I just laughed it off. But I thought to myself, really, who am I? I know who I am not – I am not the people I know, I am not the position I hold at work, I am not my academic qualification/degree, I am not the car I drive, I am not the clothes I wear… the list is endless. I even know who I am – I can sing Sinach’s ‘I Know who I am’ off heart. But who am I, really?
Do you ever pause to ask yourself sometimes who you really are? Or do you try to ask those close to you who they think you are? Sometimes, I ask myself why Jesus asked His disciples who the people thought He was and also who the disciples thought He was. It’s definitely not because He did not know who He was, if He didn’t, He would not have responded to Peter the way He did. He just wanted to know what their perception of Him was. The lesson here is that we first need to know for ourselves who we really are before asking for people’s opinions on who they think we are.
It’s interesting to note that when Jesus replied Peter in Matthew 16:18, not only did He confirm that Peter was right about who He was because it was revealed to him He also told Peter who he (Peter) really was. This really got me! It simply means that when we get a revelation of who Jesus really is, He in turn reveals to us who we really are. If you don’t know who you really are, it’s because you have not discovered who Jesus really is.
The truth is who we really are – our worth or value, is not based on what we do. It doesn’t matter that I run a ministry for young women or that I’m a wife to my husband and a mom to my son, if I don’t understand who I am in Christ, I’d be trying to find my identity in my ministry, marriage and motherhood and doing my best to meet up to the world’s expectations of who a minister, wife and mother should be. If I place who I am in what I see in the mirror every day, eventually the wrinkles and grey hair will change that picture too. Everything in this world in which I can try to place my identity will eventually change or pass away. If where I place my identity disappears, what happens to who I am?
The only safe place to keep our identity is in Jesus. Hebrews 13:8 says that Christ is the same “yesterday, today, and forever.” We should always remember that our Savior is an ever-loving, never-changing God. He knows us better than we know ourselves. It’s Christ alone who defines our identity and distinguishes us from the rest of the world.
We find our value in knowing we’re created by God to be His daughters, in knowing Jesus and having Him as our Savior, and most importantly, living in relationship with God, secure in His love for us. So next time someone asks “Who are you?” or the classic “What do you do?” remember who you are in Christ instead. And use every opportunity to share your true identity with others. I am more than a wife, a mom or a minister. I am a child of God (cutest daughter of the Most High), in whose perfect identity I can rest secure for all of eternity.