We are super excited to feature the uber amazing, devil stomping and fab Coach E’. She explodes with joy and every bit of her interview is loaded. Although she shares her life experiences on social media, there are a few things in this interview you may not have heard before, including her biggest business failures and how she jealously protects her friends .
You will love this one!
- Hello Coach E, we hope we can call you that. Please introduce yourself and tell us what you do.
Hey People. Thanks for having me on. I love this platform so it is an honour to be here. That said, I am Eziaha Bolaji-Olojo, and I actually prefer to be called Eziaha outside of Coaching. I am a UK Certified Health and Fitness Coach and I am CEO of CoachE’Squad…SavedFitFAB. I run an awesome Christian blog www.eziaha.com, an Online Mentoring Academy for Chicks called The FAB Sistership (TFS), and I am also an Author. I love being ALL of this, but my greatest privilege and assignment is being a Wife to my Perfect Slice of Heaven, Bolaji Olojo, and Mama to my kids.
- You always seem so excited and pumped, why?
Hahahaha. I actually burst out laughing at this. Oh well, I’ll say first of all, I do have a combination of the two extroverted temperaments, Sanguine and Choleric, so let’s say a lot of that comes from my blood, and the breastmilk I grew up on. Haha. Oh, but there are days baby. There are days. Those days when I feel as deflated as a tyre. Those are the days I now tell my feelings to keep on feeling that way, but i’m gonna act in the exact opposite way, and it better hurry and catch up with me. And they always do. You see, satan is just a bastard and when the Bible tells us to call those things that be not as though they are, it is inclusive of feelings. I learned from my numero UNO mentor Joyce Meyer that we don’t let our feelings vote, so whether I feel like or not, a good Leader, which I am, does what needs to be done. Plus by the time I start to sound high, pumped and stoked, I soon start to feel that way.
A cheerful spirit doeth good like medicine but a broken spirit crushes the bones. (Proverbs 17v22)
I prefer the former so I faith it (fake it to the world) until it becomes my reality.
- You talk so much about your single life and how you dedicated it to God, what’s your advice to a young lady who just married and is finding it hard to focus on God?
I do? Well, interestingly, I spent some time this morning thinking on my single days and how seasons just change with marriage and so do the expressions of our service and worship to God. The simple truth, whether we like it or lump it, is that marriage changes service in some way. The Bible is explicit and I’ll quote The Message.
I want you to live as free of complications as possible. When you’re unmarried, you’re free to concentrate on simply pleasing the Master. Marriage involves you in all the nuts and bolts of domestic life and in wanting to please your spouse, leading to so many more demands on your attention. The time and energy that married people spend on caring for and nurturing each other, the unmarried can spend in becoming whole and holy instruments of God.
1 Corinthians 7:32-35 MSG
Domestic life is REAL (especially kitchen work, sweet Lord baby Jesus!!!), and when you get married, you are trying to make sense of running a home and strike a balance, whether you are a Domestic Queen, or you work outside the home, especially as most brides don’t exactly begin marital life with a home-help. I recall having this convo with one of my 700 best friends, Ayo, after we got married (within weeks of each other) that girl, why does it seem like I am praying and studying the Word less? Like all you wanna do is stare at your ring, plaster all your wedding highlights on Social media and have sex all day and night, especially if you abstained. She said that was her reality too but soon, we strike that balance and we get back in with God.
You may NOT be able to attend all the meetings and programs that you used to, or pray all night, as a Single anymore, cos you gotta cook and have sex, so adjust cognitively, and that doesn’t say STOP completely. Trust me, Jesus understands. (See scriptural ref above). You know part of what submission amplifies into includes ADAPT. Marriage means a lot of Adaptability (is this even in the Dictionary???), especially from the woman.
And if you have married a good God man, soon, you both will strike a rhythm that works. And the crazy thing is the man is going through the same thing so yawl be easy on yourselves. It all comes together over time.
Plus don’t you dare compare!!! Girl, let me just save you. The last thing you wanna do is compare with another Chick’s marriage. I did that a whole lot in the first year of being married. I desperately wanted my husband and I to pray LONG hours together but we couldn’t. I had spent a night with this couple whose tongues woke me up as they prayed together physically. I was like this is sooooooo gon’ be my home yo!!! Oh how I used to harangue hubs. Like, you are NOT spiritual enough. Haha. Till one day, Jesus in His infinite mercies, decided against whacking me over my head, and instead made me stumble on Joyce Meyer my HERO, say she and Dave don’t pray together everyday because they simply can NOT. But rather they make sure they are connected in the knowledge of what each is praying about individually and as a family. I would hear my own Pastors say same too, and then my brain reset. Hallelujah!!!
So dear newly-wed, pace yourself. It will all fall in place.
Either ways, I will say, make sure you keep your intimacy with God, as your current season allows, and stay connected to Him. Marriage was NOT made to run on human strength or you will self-destruct.
- Why did you start your business?
I kinda started mistakenly. I had my baby, had stopped work and even relocated, and all that angst of moving from being a First Class graduate, to working my dream job in the United Nations, and then leaving to be a full time stay-at-home mama, led me to over-indulge in food and TV, so I put on a lot of weight.
Someday, I had my reality check, repented, and cleaned up my diet. Lost all the weight, started helping Chicks for free, and then God started to nudge me to ‘do business with it’ and then He used several people to speak to me and all, including my Pastor Mildred Kingsley-Okonkwo, and my friend Stephanie Obi. I really was afraid cos I wondered if anyone would pay me, but it got frustrating doing it for free, and that was definitely God’s way of saying ‘Honey, I’m done with you here…’ I obeyed, went premium and here we are, almost 7months in and it has been absolutely a miracle. I still don’t believe my life today cos, imaginative as I am, I could never have come up with this life for me.
- What’s the biggest mistake you’ve made since you started the Coach E squad and how did you make things work?
Two major mistakes.
- Not having a proper time structure. Gurl, I could be coaching at 2am. I absolutely LOVE this job and I’m pretty much a passionate Chick but the Bible held my answer in Proverbs 19v2
Zeal without knowledge is not good…
Thankfully, God used my sister and co-laborer in the Fitness business, Bumz mama of Shredder Gang, to teach me about a proper time structure. Now I have a structure, a pretty enviable one, and it has made me all the more fruitful, and for the kind of life I am building, fruitfulness is not negotiable.
- Looking to man not God. You know, when I just started, I would get a lot of ‘Oh I’m going to pay for this service from you’ or ‘I referred XYZ persons to you’. Whenever anyone told me that, I would become so expectant, waiting for them to pay up, or the referrals to come. If they don’t show up, jeez, I would harbour some kind of grudge in my heart for the person. Until God checked me and let me know that flesh is just what it is… FLESH, and I am to put NO confidence in it. It doesn’t matter who promises what, I don’t take my eyes off Him. Today, I don’t even put NOTHING on man. I thank you for your kind heart and intention, but I look to HIM as my Source alone. That way, I am NEVER disappointed. Plus sometimes, we humans have the right intention but things happen. So best to stay looking to the One to whom ‘things’ don’t happen.
You are holding a conference for stay-at-home mums who want to deliver their dreams, tell why you are doing this.
I’m doing this as a give-back because I was this frustrated Stay-at-home mom, who was mad at the world, and especially her husband at how her life turned out. I hated that season and I so desperately wanted to be a #WorkingMom too like ‘all’ my ‘mates’ on IG who popped kids and went back into the corporate world like they never left. I was idle, lazy, spent all my time on gossip blogs, totally discontent, and indulged in self-pity parties, the exact four ‘breads’ the Proverbs 31 woman didn’t eat.
‘…the bread of idleness, gossip, discontent and self-pity she will not eat…’ (vs 27 AMPC)
Which is the Scripture the meeting is themed after.
It was such a dark time in my life, but somehow, God delivered me from myself, before I self-destruct. In that season, I learned the POWER of ‘Domestic’ and how God can birth the dreams He deposited in us, right from home. I started my business from home, and God has spread us abroad. I want to help some women get through this season too, and deliver their dreams. I know how the average stay-at-home mom is looked down on, sometimes even by their husbands, and it looks like they are not worth much. I went through all that, and I overcame. God really helped me and it is my privilege to be a vessel to help many more Domestic Queens
- There’s so much talk now about women supporting women, tell us how you support your friends and their dreams.
First I pray. Next if I run into any info that would help them, I am quick to pass it across. Sometimes too, I have learned that living fully and passionately is inspiration to my friends to go after their own dreams. I know a lot of my friends tell me that I inspire them to go after their goals and dreams as they see me go. Another reason to not shrink or play small. My playing small serves nobody.
- You hinted in a post about 3 years ago that some people had issues when you married from another tribe. Can you tell us about it and how you worked things out?
Some people ke? It wasn’t ‘some people’, it was my parents’. I’m Igbo and I was marrying into a Yoruba home. Something that had not happened before in my family, so it was quite a struggle. But consent was eventually given, thanks to lots of prayers, wise counsel and interventions, and we are now in our 4th year of marriage, and both families are still enjoying a happy relationship.
- You are definitely a protector of friends, give us practical tips on how to protect and maintain a great relationship with girlfriends.
I think I’ve been lucky too with my friends. My sanguine nature (thank You Jesus) makes people drawn to me, but I have also been the ‘asker’ some times.
First thing I do to maintain is to define the purpose of the friendship, and this is very important to me. I didn’t do this in the past so I screwed up some relationships. I believe godly friendships are divinely orchestrated, so once I prayerfully determine why this Chick is in my life, I work that friendship mostly to that purpose. Now at the Base of it all is Christ, but Chick A may be my ‘everyday gisting buddy’, Chick B may be the one with whom my huge faith projects and prayers are shared when we talk once a fortnight.
Another may be my wife-buddy, with whom I can share wifey challenges. Another my confessor who I know is gon’ whoop my butts with the truth if I’m messing up. And so on. Oh and there are some with whom my super-emotional side is sufficiently supplied, so we are very mush, lovey-dovey and romantic.
Lol. You see, that’s why I have 700 best friends. Haha. You can’t put all these on one Chick. I’m too much for one. While one friend may fit more than one purpose, only on rare occasions do you find a friend who fits all these (and there’s research to support this), but I’ve been told I can pretty much fit into a lot of ‘purposes’. Even then, that’s still too much pressure for one person.
Challenges start when I want to make my fortnight-friend my daily-gist buddy. When purpose is not known, abuse starts.
I also am truly interested in the lives of my friends. If I know you have a challenge, I do everything I can to help, whether spiritually, financially or otherwise. Sometimes covertly. Some of my friends will NEVER know that for some ‘testimonies’ they have, I pretty much flat out let God use me anonymously. These seeds are priceless and they leave your bank account with them ‘healthy’.
In recent times, my schedule has gotten busier and so I’ve started to actually SCHEDULE time to either call or visit, or I may forget. So it is not out of place to see ‘Call Dumebi’ on Tuesday in my diary. And then if there is some challenge they have shared with me, I pray AND actually ask them for regular updates. I’m that annoying friend that poke noses into your matter. Haha. I have a day I set aside to just pray for my friends. Also I’ve learned and stay learning to both grace and forgive my friends, unlike before when I would be quick to dump and move on.
Phew, I think I’ve been lucky for the most part cos God has definitely restored the ones I screwed up.
Per ‘protector’, one thing I make sure I do is I don’t spill secrets. If you share something with me, even if we quarrel, I just shut up. I don’t even use it against them. Plus nobody bad-mouths my friends in front of me. Nah. And if I see you doing nonsense, I correct as God leads me. Cos I don’t want you to get into trouble
What will you say is your biggest achievement as an entrepreneur so far?
Two things I’m pretty much looking forward to…
- Hosting my own TV show, The CoachE’ Diaries…SavedFitFAB.
- Having my CoachE’ Fitness&Word tees worn by Staff of Multi Nationals in their THOUSANDS as they take long Fitness walks and I give talks to them too
Until both happen, I’m not considering anything that. I stay pressing on.
- We know you are a fitness coach, but Fit-fam aside what food will you eat all day? (Confession time)
That’s easy. Anyone who knows me knows I’m a Noodles fan!!! I popped a baby out, and requested for Noodles and fried eggs immediately. For how ’empty’ nutrition wise, and ‘full’ calorie wise Noodles is, you would think I would give it up. There are days I’ve had Noodles for BLD. Like Noodles is BAE!!! That said, it doesn’t have dominion over me. No food does or can!!! Matter of fact, when I was actively trying to lose weight, I stayed off noodles for 3months, a miracle second only to the Immaculate conception.
- When you are not blogging, coaching or praying? What are you doing?
Hahaha. Praying ke. That’s my Romantic Covenant Sister, Funto’s forte. She is the Prayer warrior. Anyways, I’m usually planning and projecting my life. I really do want my life to make Jesus famous so I don’t slack. Then I watch tons of videos from my fave teachers, and music videos on YouTube endlessly. I’m a ‘Tube junkie haha. Thank God for YouTube. These days i’m obsessed with Terri Savelle Foy and she is the reason doing the dishes or laundry is no longer as annoying. For fun though, really my daily routines are fun for me. My life is pretty exciting, but Desperate Housewives is still my fave go-to series so I watch re-runs since I’ve seen it all.
- Complete this statement, One day Eziaha will
Hear ‘well done good and faithful servant. You really did make me proud and lived driven by eternity’ from God. I’m looking forward to and doing what I can to hear that.
Wow! We certainly loved this interview and we hope you did too.
Did you notice what she said about not comparing your marriage / home to somebody else’s or when she said “marriage was NOT made to run on human strength or you will self-destruct.” These are things we should not toy with.
Now one thing we absolutely love was what she said about defining the purpose of a friendship so you don’t screw it up. Many of us chose our friends carelessly and end up screwing things up. Well, it is time to do things differently. Choose your friends wisely, and guard your relationships jealously.