I get a lot of messages from different people saying that they really admire my relationship with God and would like to know how they can be close to God too.
Truth is there is no formula for developing an intimate relationship with God. God is a living, mysterious being, He cannot be tamed or manipulated into a relationship with us. however, there are things we can do to invite Him to draw near to us. Jeremiah 29:13 says, “You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.”
Seek God with ALL your Heart
It’s one thing to say you want to know God, but the question is how desperately do you want it?
Those who truly know God have a sense of desperation to spend time with Him. He is not just a priority; he is the priority. David wrote in Psalm 27:4 “One thing I ask of the LORD, this ONLY do I seek: that I may dwell in the house of the Lord all the days of my life, to gaze on the beauty of the Lord and to seek him in his temple.” Paul also stated his priority in Philippians 3 by saying “everything in my life is rubbish compared to knowing Jesus.”
There have been times in my life when God became a priority because I felt really desperate for him. I just really needed Him in those times and couldn’t get enough of Him. While these seasons are very precious to me, I’ve learned not to base the priority of Jesus on my feelings. I still want to make him my priority even during the times where I don’t feel as desperate for Him, those times when it’s really a LABOR of love to get up early to seek Him.
So whether it’s out of desperation or desire or discipline, I want to always seek Him with all my heart.
Know God’s Love Language
I’m sure you’ve seen or read or heard of the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman . Once you understand someone’s “love language,” you can be sure to communicate your affection in a manner that creates intimacy.
So if we all have a love language and we are all made in the image of God, then I totally believe God has a love language! He told the Israelites that they were wasting their time in worship because they were not speaking his love language- Amos 5:21 “I hate all your show and pretense—the hypocrisy of your religious festivals and solemn assemblies” Why? Because God’s love language is an obedient and repentant heart. David understood this: “You do not desire a sacrifice, or I would offer one. You do not want a burnt offering. The sacrifice you desire is a broken spirit. You will not reject a broken and repentant heart, O God” Psalm 51:16–17
God wants us to love him with our obedience. Jesus said this clearly: “If you love me, obey my commandments.”
You can cry till your clothes are soaked during worship in Church and sign up for every Bible study and still not be developing intimacy with the Lord. What He requires is your obedience and brokenness. Are there areas of your life that you’ve reserved for yourself, refusing to surrender totally to God? Intimacy means giving all of yourself.
Turn your thoughts to Him
Whether you are washing dishes, doing laundry, cooking, shopping or hanging out with friends, take a moment to turn your mind in God’s direction. Say a few words to Him, silently or out loud and also listen for His response. Yes, God talks back to us; what happens is that we are too busy or too noisy to hear Him. Nothing too serious, you can just tell Him how you’re feeling at the moment and even ask How He’s feeling too. Just imagine God as your buddy and relate with Him like you’d relate with your best friend.
Take the time during the busy everyday moments to just focus on Him. Sometimes, I listen to messages while I’m washing clothes or driving just to keep my mind stayed on Him.
I’m a journal junkie! I have about 9 journal for different things in my life. One of the journals I’ve had the longest is my prayer journal where I write out my heart to God when I don’t feel like talking with my lips and after pouring out my heart, I imagine His response to me and write it down too. I also write down how I feel per time.. happy, excited, sad. I write out my testimonies. And when I go through this journal I’m just amazed at all God has done for me and it make me love Him all the more. So Keep a journal, large or small and write down anything you experience during the day that draws you closer to God. Write down your moments of hope or gratitude, moments when you see His hand at work in your life, those moments when you sense His loving care as He watches over you. Write them down so you don’t forget them and you can always go back to them in moment when you need to encourage yourself in the Lord.
Don’t give up
Maybe you’ve really tried to be intimate with God but you’re discouraged because it seems like He’s not answering your prayers. You’ve been believing for a particular thing and it’s not happening and you’re beginning to doubt if God really exists. Malachi 3:16 says “Then those who feared the LORD spoke with each other, and the LORD listened to what they said. In his presence, a scroll of remembrance was written to record the names of those who feared him and always thought about the honor of his name.”
This shows that every conversation I’ve had about the Lord—every prayer—has been heard and recorded by God in heaven. Isn’t that just amazing??
You will never, ever waste a moment seeking the Lord. Even during seasons of discouragement, God sees, God hears, God records, and God will respond in his time. And He makes everything beautiful in His time. So don’t Give up.
Being intimate with God is not something reserved for the “super Christians”. God offers the deepest intimacy for all of his children. The question is, are we really desperate for Him?