When I had my first baby I was finding it difficult to balance anything. My fellowship time with God was non-existing for a while. I had to cry out to God for help. I was confused.
When you lack wisdom on anything cry out to God and he will give you the wisdom you require for any situation.
I will share some tips below on how I balanced my kids, marriage and spiritual life.
The first thing to do is have a scale of preference, which is more important to you?
My order was
- God first
- My Spouse
- My kids
When you understand that God is first and without him you can’t make it through out the day you will forcefully take out time for him. Back then my kids and hubby always interrupted me during my personal devotion.
I tried waking up before them, it didn’t work. They would wake up 10 minutes after; I had to figure out something. I got inspired by a write up from another parent going through the same issue.
Put your Bible and all what you need for your personal time with God in the rest room aka toilet, yep it’s that bad. The bible says “And from the days of John the Baptist until the present time, the kingdom of heaven has endured violent assault, and violent men seize it by force” [as a precious prize–a share in the heavenly kingdom is sought with most ardent zeal and intense exertion].
Matthew 11:12 AMP
One has to be forceful about these things.
Here’s another tip especially if you fall in the category of “technology taking your time with God”;
Set a reminder on your phone about fellowship time ensure to set it for 2-3 minutes after wake up time. If your laptop is the first thing you go to when you wake, put your bible on your laptop. The rest room works for me than the others. You can get a cute caddy basket that can carry your bible, highlighters, notepad and devotional. Nobody disturbs when you are in the rest room. (Except toddlers so shut the door)
If you have a spare room in your home you can make it your war room. Ensure it has a lock so when you are there nobody disturbs.
Once your relationship with God is sorted you are 90% okay.
A good marriage requires hard work and deliberate actions.
- Set Specific times for date night ; stick to it and dress up for it, be it at home or else where.
- Sex, teasing and physical touch should be consistent. Men would take any of those three over nothing. Yes sometimes we are tired, but we can still cuddle, touch or be teased.
- Spice your marriage with different surprises. You could try a new recipe, new sex style or game.
Just like you study hard for exams so you don’t fail, work hard at your marriage an by Gods grace it won’t fail.
And for the kids one thing is important: there is no proper way to take care of kids because no two kids are the same that said; Know that they require these things to survive; a loving environment, healthy lifestyle, education and Jesus. How you achieve these is solely left to you, your spouse and your abilities, with God help.
Till next time, remained blessed
Written by Tosin Opara
I am the content Creator/Brand manager for “Deestylefairy”. I am passionate about family, parenting and personal development, which are the values that my brand represents.