It is very easy to get carried away as a parent. We seem to have a lot of things to do- house chores, work, church activities, but all these things are obviously not as important as our kids.
I find myself consciously making efforts to pay attention to my children. Once I feel like I have not spent so much time with them, I CREATE the time.
It is important to find a balance between our everyday responsibilities and caring for these precious gifts.
Here are 10 tips you need to know-
- Give your child your ears and eyes when he is speaking to you. I am guilty of listening and doing something else. When kids are talking it’s best to maintain eye contact so you can read their body language. There is always more to what they are saying.
- Spend time doing activities that would encourage interaction with them. It is the best way to know everything and anything about your children. When children are relaxed and happy they tend to spill anything without feeling like we are barging them with questions. Ensure the activities are what they love.
- Act, do not react. Whenever your kids do something wrong, take time out to think of the best way to discipline them. Try to understand why he/ she did what they did; there is always a reason. Correct if necessary.
- Always give reasons before you discipline your child. That way they learn their lesson. Let’s not assume they do it on purpose. No child is naughty on purpose.
- Let your children see how you relate with God don’t force religion on them. If your kids go to church because mummy says so or daddy says so, when mummy and daddy are not there they won’t go. Preach the Gospel to them, pray for the salvation of their souls and let God do the rest.
- Allow them invite their friends to the house. Let them hang out where you are so you can hear their conversations. Get to know their friends and their parents.
- Do not be a passive parent be specific about what you want. Create house rules and regulations. You can write them down and paste it on the wall. Use words like: In this house we; are kind, don’t shout, don’t complain, say thank you etc.
- Please do not form seniority with your kids. They deserve your “please” and “thank you” as much as you do. They deserve their privacy as much as you do and they deserve respect as much as you do. In other words, practise what you preach.
- Be involved in their schooling. Know their class teacher/lesson teacher, go for open days, see where they are lagging behind and ask them why they are finding that class or subject difficult, then ask them what they need to help them improve. This way you are making them responsible for their actions. Please avoid shouting at them because they failed in class. I bet they already feel bad, don’t make it worse. Instead remove or reduce privilege such as no game / television /travelling this holiday and let them know how you feel.
- Give yourself a break when you make mistakes; no parent is perfect. That said, when it is necessary, apologize to your kids. It strengthens the bond and respect they have for you.
What other tips do you think should be added to the list or removed from the list? Kindly comment below.
TosinOpara. I am the content Creator/Brand manager for “Deestylefairy”. I am passionate about family, parenting and personal development, which are the values that my brand represents.
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