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Month: May 2017

Work your reality

Work your reality



For about 3 months this year, I did not publish. Although, in all fairness, I was writing (scribbling thoughts down), I did not finish any piece. Before now, I worked a more flexible job and I lived in an environment that allowed me more privacy and time to myself and thoughts but my reality changed in January and with the blessings of this new reality came the challenge of “getting into the zone” (writers will relate). While I conveniently threw blames, gave excuses and wished, nothing changed until eventually, after months of waiting unproductively, I took responsibility for the results I need to deliver by creating the environment I need within the environment I have. And, it’s working.

Sista, anything can work if you work it.

Too many times we are stagnated in life not because we don’t have dreams or the ability and desire to make those dreams happen but because we are waiting for the perfect weather.We allow unfavorable circumstances to incapacitate us and we sit back blaming everyone but ourselves and making excuses for nonperformance with the hope that one day, the galaxies will align and we’ll finally have all the time and resources we think we need to do what we need to do. The truth, however, is that life will not always present to us the realities we want or deserve. But if we’ll dare to objectively reexamine our current realities with a different attitude and from a different perspective, we will discover that what we have is good material to work with. We have the ability to create preferred realities using our current realities as the raw material.If you approach your reality with the “I can work this” attitude and you see the challenge as an opportunity to create, you can make anything- unemployment, disability, financial difficulty, a breakup, loss, pressure- work.Besides, there’s no situation that is entirely unique to anyone. Someone somewhere has made a worse situation work!

However, note that somethings can be changed! Nevertheless, some things can only be worked. You cannot change the taste of lemon juice, but if lemon juice is all you’ve got, you can make it work by adding some sugar. It’s up to you!No matter how hard you complain about “not having enough time” you really cannot have more than 24 hours in a day. So you can either maximize the time you have by task prioritization and proper planning or stay stuck in complains. Whatever it is, stop waiting for better. Take responsibility and create it.Working your reality means working with your reality.

Sometimes God deprives us of certain luxuries only so that our eyes can be open to see opportunities in strange places. It is amazing how extreme pressure juices out the best we never knew existed within us. How shame, struggles and pain reveal the strength we never knew we had. How our desperation for a breakthrough leads us to making unprecedented discoveries.How in our quest for solutions we become solutions.

You can live the life you want within the life you have but it won’t happen without your effort. So, stop waiting to “get into your zone”. Roll up your sleeves and work your reality!

Enjoy God always.


Deborah Adeojo

Bringing church home; How to make your children remain in Christ throughout their life span

Bringing church home; How to make your children remain in Christ throughout their life span


Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it.
Proverbs 22:6 NLT

Why are children who were raised in the church falling out of church as they grow older? Is the church doing something wrong or are the parents missing something somewhere?

While growing up, the trend was to ensure your kids go to school, after schools and nobody asks to see your homework, nobody asked what you were thought in school that day or what happened in school. Our parents where to busy trying to make money. Same things goes for Sunday school, nobody asked questions about Sunday school teachings or what activities or your new friends in church. Our parents thought that sending us to school, lesson and Sunday school meant that we automatically turn out great; well wrong.
We should not follow that trend. While my younger brother was in school I noticed his school devised a method to make parents involved with the child’s schooling by sending a report booklet with the home work. I did all the signing and checking of homework for him, my mum was super busy.
Anyways same thing with my daughter in fact based on that knowledge I had I looked for a school that had that same pattern. I do my daughters homework with her, not only that, when I go pick her up from school, I start asking her questions to make her talk about whatever happened in her class for that day. She is only 3 years old so this also helps her increase her vocabulary daily, it’s a win, win situation.
I also have a close relationship with her teacher, it’s very important, have your kids’ teachers’ number. The school also has this policy where each class has a WhatsApp group which is great.

I brought church home for my kids, I am raising my kids to understand that the church is not a building; the church is you and I and what is important is not the building but ensuring that our lives are exemplary to that of Christ.

We need to make our kids understand that church is not where you go and slay, help them know why they go to church, don’t assume that because they go to church they are well grounded in Christ.
After service every Sunday ask them what they learnt discuss it and try to apply to their lifestyle.
Oh the joy of a child knowing Jesus at a young age. I was eager as a child to know more and more about Jesus I consider it a privilege.
Let your children know God from little, do not leave it to the church to do all the work be involved, have memory verses for the week, when they do something wrong punish them with scripture reading/writing it and tell them to summaries it for you; to them it is a punishment but you are actually planting a seed that will yield good fruit in the future.
Bring Church home. Let your kids see Christ in you, help them involve Christ in everything they do.
My daughter wanted a skipping rope, I told her to pray to God for it, she did it then and there because we were at the salon, it’s not like I could not get her the skipping rope how much was it, I just felt she had too many toys.
My daughter prayed all week and the next for that skipping rope. Her dad personally went to get it for her, He was tired of hearing the prayer Lol. He was tripped by her attitude towards prayer and asking for what she wanted. Teach your kids the way of God and when they are old they will not depart from it.

As a working mum I know your time is not flexible and during the week you are swamped. If it’s possible to drop off or pick your kids from school please do so. Discuss with them in the car, you can also discuss while you are having dinner at the table. Make sure your weekends are for your kids. Your kids should never feel like a burden b deliberate about your relationship with them. Let there be no doors stopping them from reaching you at any time.
Till next time remain blessed.




Recently God has been reminding me that the singular most important thing in our Christian walk is a personal relationship with Him.When I say  personal I mean that kind  of one on one relationship when God can call you His friend like He did to Abraham, the type of relationship that God can tell you what is in His Agenda (Gen 18:16),the type where you stay in His presence to worship and study the word just to know Him more.

There are plenty reasons why this is important for you but I will be talking about just one today. Scripture says that in the last days the love of many will wax cold, nations will rise against nations and many false prophets shall arise (Matthew 24:6-12) and I am sure if you are one with the understanding of times like the sons of Issachar you will agree that we are in the last days.

I hear all kinds of doctrines and teachings these days that does not have any scriptural basis in the word of God and I can’t help but weep sometimes. The amazing thing is that Christians are devouring all these falseness and as i was recently asking the lord,the answer why it is so dropped in my spirit.It is majorly because we no longer take time to study the word for ourselves, we are not like the Berean Christians that go back after Paul has taught them to check if what he said was true (a whole Paul the apostle oh) (Acts 17:11) this shows that no man is infallible.

Nowadays we take everything we hear and digest it hook line and sinker;we are quick to forget that the Holy Spirit is our teacher and he will guide us into all truth.We need to get to a point where we know the lord for ourselves not tossed to and fro by every wind of doctrine (Eph 4:14).The truth of the matter is that God is yearning to talk to us,he sees the questions and the confusion in our hearts and he really wants to answer them but we need to commit to spending time with him and searching the scriptures, it is only the word of God that is final and steadfast.

Study the word of God with the heart of a child always yearning to understand and know more,as a Lady that loves the lord we should have knowledge about basic doctrines of Christianity like baptism, laying on of hands,resurrection and second coming etc., so that when people start to drop the so called revelation we know that it is not in keeping with the word of God.


You can do character study, chapter study, book study (e.g. study the book of Daniel), get a simpler translation if you need to, just make sure you are studying the word of God to show yourself approved (2 Tim 3:16).Don’t just study because you have a preaching engagement or because you are the one taking bible study,study to know more about your Lord and his ways.The word of God is a compass it guides us it is also a sieve that helps us to separate the wheat from the chaff.



Good Morning Beautified One and Happy New Month!
We know its workers day so a number of us will be resting .
Can we quickly say our confessions for today? We are using Matthew 5:14 as our reference point.
I am the light of the world, therefore I cannot be hidden!
I am a child of light therefore darkness cannot overwhelm me!
The life and light of God will be seen upon me wherever I go!
The world will come to my light and the brightness of my rising will attract kings and highly placed people to me!
The life and light of God in me lightens up the lives of those around me!
The light of God in me produces an indelible mark in my generation!
The world awaits my manifestation, therefore I manifest greater works and show forth the glory of God!
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