“Let us be glad and rejoice and give Him glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and HisBride(wife) has made herself ready ’’ Revelations 19:7
The Lamb of God is the Bridegroom as illustrated in John 3:29 and we are the bride of Christ growing into perfection.
Jesus gave an illustration in Matthew 22 of the Kingdom of Heaven and likened it to the great wedding feast. Invitation has already been sent out into the world when Christ died on the cross for our sins and all it takes is for you to believe in Him. Many are called but few are chosen because those few responded to the call.
Psalm 45 is a beautiful song that tells us of the bridegroom espousing the church to himself. She is in courtship with him while on earth as she awaits the great marriage feast where she would be with Him forever.
“Never again will you be called “The Forsaken City” or the “Desolate Land”.Your new name will be “The City of God’s delight ” and “The Bride of God”.(Isaiah 62:4 NLT)
Just as there is the place of knowledge and intimacy between two couples, so also are we called to live a life of intimacy with the King. It is quite obvious that from the Garden of Eden God has always wanted to commune with us. The secret place is the place of communion, the place of investment and discovery, growth unto perfection. He gives direction for every area of your life (Psalm 32:8-9).
Bob Sorge said in his book Secret of the secret place “Intimacy precedes insight and passion precedes purpose.Come to the secret place and then get divine guidance “.
Rev 19:7 b “His Bride hath made herself ready “.
The place of preparation can’t be overlooked because the price of unpreparedness is too great to bear. We need not be like the five foolish virgins that were unprepared(Matthew 25:1-13)despite responding to the call.Notice what Jesus says: “And while they were going away to make the purchase, the bridegroom came, and those who were ready went in with him to the wedding feast; and the door was shut (Matt. 25:10)”. Be at alert, watch and pray for we do not know when He is coming.
We have been created for love and He is the only satisfaction to your heart, nothing else can suffice.
Today’s post is on a very sensitive issue. We thank God for life and all its blessings and pray that we and our loved ones live long, purposeful lives. But what do we do when death happens? How we conduct ourselves around those that are grieving goes a long way in helping them cope with their loss as well as commence the healing process.
I will give a scenario and we’ll take off from there. (P.S I’ve snapped my fingers, thrown them over my head and said “God forbid” in advance for you)
You are asleep at 4am one lovely Saturday morning when your phone rings. It’s your family friend Abike, her voice is trembling and she informs you that she has just lost her mother who had been living with her family to a chronic illness.
You sit up in shock and try to find the words to say. “Abike, I’m so sorry, it is well, I can only imagine how you feel, God knows best”
Abike doesn’t reply, you can hear her sobbing now and people wailing in the background, the line goes dead. You are still sitting in bed sad and confused. What should you do?
Visit as soon as you can.
This applies more to close friends and family. Go over to the home of the deceased and offer your sympathies as well as assistance in any way you can (e.g funeral plans, babysitting the family’s children, cooking etc).
NOTE: keep your visit as brief as possible.
Talk but BE SENSITIVE:
Introduce yourself to the family if you were an acquaintance of the deceased but not well known to the family.
Say kind words about the deceased, do not feel as if you must avoid talking about the person who died. Most families may not want to hear “it is God’s will or he/she is in heaven now” from you at that time, be sensitive and keep those thoughts in your heart. Avoid tales of “had I known” or “it could have been me”.
Pray with the family.
Do not have expectations on how the grieving family should behave:
Loss is a terrible thing, there are different stages of grief and different ways of dealing with grief. Understand and respect this.
Some may curse, scream or ask God questions, as much as possible allow them to express their feelings; they aren’t necessarily looking for a response from you, a simple “I understand” or a touch will suffice.
Do not expect them to engage in conversations, entertain you, Dobale for the elders or mourn quietly. ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS BE THERE and ensure they do not cause harm to themselves or others.
Bring a meal along if you can.
I believe this depends on your intimacy with the family of the deceased. Those grieving may forget, refuse or be too busy to eat but they are human and need to eat to survive. So, bring a meal (not snacks) along for the family. You may bring some snacks along to entertain visitors.
Send flowers, a card or an email. It is a show of concern especially for those who are not intimate with the family.
If invited for the funeral, stay informed about the plans and respect the family’s wishes. Some families request a certain dress code, no flowers, no wailing or no extra guests, comply with them and be on time for all the events.
Always sign your name in the condolence register, it is important to note your company/church affiliation if the family may not otherwise know you.
At the funeral it is not mandatory to view the body, but if the family offers it, it is customary to show your respect by viewing the deceased.
After the funeral, keep in touch.
Call, text, visit occasionally, offer some support if you can and invite them for social events (even if they may not attend). Remember the special days. The first Christmas, anniversary or birthday without the deceased may bring back memories and grief. Do remember the family at that time and send gifts/messages.
Chiamaka Anne Meremikwu. A doctor in training with a passion for God, humanity and literature.
She is an introverted-extrovert and she strives to make life as fun and easy as possible for as many as she can. If you don’t find her harassing her friends or grooving to some Igbo gospel music.
Your heart is racing,you are in deep thoughts,you don’t know maybe you should say the truth or you should just lie.Your spirit tells you to say the truth after all it is the truth that will set you free but your flesh screams noooooo. You are torn in because lying is easy but saying the truth is the right thing to do. Am sure every believer has found themselves in this situation before, it might not exactly be about telling a lie to save your neck, it might just be some other sin but am sure we are all faced with temptations from time to time.In my little time of being a believer i have come to learn that there is always a window of escape during every temptation.It might not be there for long but an opportunity always comes up where you have that inner conflict of whether to do it or not.
This is the time when the argument comes in, it all goes on in the mind and it’s a debate between the spirit and the flesh, the soul is the battle field. Let’s take a look at Joseph when Potiphar’s wife was asking for the unthinkable,most likely part of him was screaming yesssss, it will be nice to lay with the master’s wife but another part said “should i do this and sin against God?This is the argument, it’s a debate that goes on in the mind of every child of God and sometimes the spirit wins sometimes sin wins.
However God wants us to live a victorious life where the spirit will always win over sin and flesh. Impossible you will say but we all know that with man things might be impossible but with God all things are possible.The point i am trying to make is that it is possible for us to master sin and not for sin to be our master. The Bible clearly state in the book of Romans that we shall no longer be slaves to sin,so all the everyday yielding to sin and temptations has got to stop(Rom 6:6,6:10). God has called us to a higher walk with him where we don’t stay in the place of asking for forgiveness every time and living under the guilt and weight of sin.I am not saying we should abandon grace and forgiveness but imagine using all the strength you use in asking for forgiveness and grace every time for better exploits for God Rom (6;1-4).The key to winning the argument is not farfetched; it is locked in the word of God.The word of God is the sword of the spirit it is the weapon with which we will win the argument.
It is the word of God that will teach us to say no to every form of ungodliness (Titus 2:11),it is the word of God that will help us see that we have dominion over the devil and he can’t toy with our mind(Rom 6:10),it is the word of God that will help us to see a way of escape out of every temptation (1 Cor 10:13), it is this same word that will help us grow our spirit so that we can always see when he is leading us away from temptations.It is this word of God that will help us know that even when we sin we have a great advocate in heaven in the person of Jesus that is continually interceding for us (1 John 2:1) and so we can ask for forgiveness instead of wallowing in guilt and shame(Rom 8:1).God is calling us to a higher walk with him where sin no longer wins the argument every time and with the help of the Holy Spirit we will surely get there.
I am a final year medical student.I love the Lord and I believe that Jesus Christ is the central theme of Christianity.
BEAUTIFIED CONFESSIONS FOR THE WEEK – MARCH 20TH 2017
It’s the third week in March and a lot has happened in the year already, however we refuse to bow our heads in shame. We are declaring the joy of the Lord and claiming the strength it contains.
Isaiah 12:3 is our reference.
In the name of Jesus I have joy!
Weeping may endure for the night but joy cometh in the morning!
I declare I live in joy!
The joy of the Lord is my strength!
The more word I get the more joy I have!
I eat at the table that has been prepared for me in the presence of my enemy!
My heart will rejoice always, and my joy will no one take from me!
I go forth with joy and come back exceedingly rejoicing!
God gives me the oil of joy!
If you know Virtuous Oak (that’s her name on Instagram) then you would agree with us that her humility and sincerity is remarkable. This month on our Beautified Woman of the Month, we feature this incredible woman and learn from her wealth of experience. Now if you are thinking of going into the ministry or marrying someone in the ministry you need to read every line of this interview more than once. Argghh there’s just so much to learn.
Please introduce yourself.
I am Adigun Titilope .I have an acronym for my names (given by my parents and my husband) Titilope, Hadassah, Adetola, Didun Adigun. – THADA. I am a daughter of a king, wife of almost 6 years to Dr. Love, mother of three graced nations, pharmacist by profession. My husband and I coordinate a Ministry to teenagers and young adults, MINE TEENAGE MINISTRY and pastor the church arm of the ministry – The Ark.
In one sentence, how would you describe yourself?
Titilope Adigun is work in progress who is being and doing her best to enjoy the life that Jesus gave her.
What is your definition of purpose and how did you find yours?
Purpose, the reason for my existence is becoming like Jesus. Scripture says in Romans 8:29 (please read in as many versions as you possibly can for understanding) that I was chosen to conform to the image of Jesus. In my days in the university and a few years later I got really confused because of the wave of discovering purpose. It then occurred to me that since I did not make myself, I would have to ask the One who made me why He did. This scripture just seemed to be it for me with this definition. Being and doing what Jesus would be and do per time and in everything has been my driving force. I have found purpose in being Oluwatimilehin Adigun’s wife, found purpose in being David, Esther and Samuel’s mom and found purpose in being a blessing to the younger generation so they don’t make the same mistakes.
How would you describe the ideal Christian woman & wife?
The Ideal Christian and wife is one who understands her true identity in God lives by the Word and the Spirit and exudes the love, wisdom, grace of God. She understands she has limitations and that she cannot please everyone so she serves well but also knows how to take good care of herself. I think balance is the word that best summarizes her life!!!
How are you able to manage your ministry and family without either suffering?
Before I answer this question, I have to say this. Before now I used to say that if I knew that my husband was going to be a pastor, I would have said ‘No’ when he asked me out. I just wanted it cool and steady though there were experiences along my journey through life that were training in disguise for such a time as this.
Managing ministry and family with neither of them suffering was not exactly easy from the start especially because of birthing and nurturing our three great nations. I had to combine this with a 8am -5pm job.
The first thing I did was quit my job, maybe I did not have to but I must confess it was overwhelming and I felt I was being unfair to my children.
One thing God has really helped us to do is build young people and give them a platform to harness and express what God has graced them with so by God’s grace there are responsibilities that can be delegated to some of them and over time they have gotten better at carrying out these responsibilities excellently. With that in place, I have learnt the importance of delegation and monitoring and thankfully these amazing young people are willing to help. God bless them for me. This has helped me focus on family and our children as they are still in their formative years and they need extra care and attention because of the different species of young people in our world.
Please give some practical tips for women who are overwhelmed by the same situation.
Dear sister let me start by celebrating you for the journey so far. It is a higher calling that you have and I believe God knew your frame before He called you into this thing called ‘ministry’. I know so many young ladies who would say no to being called into ministry especially as a pastors wife . Please know that to a large extent you can not really compare yourself with other women. The demand placed on you is more and on different fronts so my advice to you is :
Ask God to teach you how to make things work as your peculiarity demands. You need a large dose of wisdom to balance many things.
With your priorities in place , you will need to define the things that are important, things that are urgent and otherwise. This categorization will vary per time but it will help you plan your time well. Please do all you can to give God first place n your life everyday and keep in touch with Him through out the day, this makes the burden easy to bear
Please get help!!! By all means I consider myself a hardworking homemaker and in a bid to keep everywhere in shape I get exhausted and don’t get to do some very important things. There are days I’m so drained and irritable and the whole house is under mummy’s tension. My husband tells me that if I continue like this, I would loose out on so many defining moments that would create a lasting impression in the minds of my children . So if you are like me please get help, many times you have people offering to help with different things please allow them to help and get their blessings from God.
How does it feel being married to a Pastor?
Laughing at this point is so inevitable. Like I said earlier, my desire was to just have my husband and children living in a cute home loving and serving God without too many people around, if you know what I mean.
When this came, my husband took time to break the news of God telling him to start a church because we had even planned that we were not going to do the compulsory classes that would qualify us to be ordained in the Ministry we were attending at the time.
God has worked on me and enlarged my heart to take in more people and to love them. Being a Pastor’s wife has come with mixed feelings for me but the good times far outweigh the not-so good times. I have known the joy of seeing people find a reason to live their best lives. I count it a great honour to have a husband who lives his life loving people and this love has changed countless lives and salvaged destinies. Oh, what a joy to know that the young ones have found shelter from the storm under our roof ,where they can love God, serve Him and give expression to the greatness inside them while preparing to be launched into the world for exploits!!!!!
Complete this … Pastor Timi is a …
Pastor Timi is a God crazy young man who loves Titilope deeply, amazingly fathers David, Esther and Samuel and who just like Jesus is an expression of God’s love to humanity! An Advocate of Sexual Purity and Love Never Fails.
What do you love the most about being married?
The best part of being married for me is the knowing that you are greatly treasured by at least one human who has got your back anytime any day, I’m second ONLY to God in his life- such a sweet thought!
How are you and Pastor Timi raising your children to stand out for Christ in this perverse generation?
What a challenging question. You really cannot imagine how much this means to us because of how perverse this generation and these times are. I believe parents in these coming generations would need a higher level of parenting grace.
That said God has been helping us lay eternal foundations. By God’s grace, they know and attend devotions (we try to make sure they are awake and alert at those times ) and they are in as many spiritual meetings as they can be with us . In between they’ve heard a lot of praying in tongues and they try to do it once in a while.
My husband lays his hands on them (and me) every morning (as much a possible) and pronounces a blessing. Intercession is key for these little ones because prayers cover s them at those times when we can’t be there with them. Very importantly we have been media conscious for them.
I can’t remember anyone of them ever singing a secular song. Guess this might not be a big deal to some parents but I am so grateful that at this age we have a (have a 4 year old King, 2 year old Queen and 8 months old priest) they have an idea of who God is and what worshiping Him means. There is still so much to do in this regard because there are so little alternatives especially in cartoons.
Parenting is one course for us in this marriage institution that my husband and I by the help of the Holy Spirit hope to pass excellently. Let me add that I am also reading books on parenting which I believe would help.
You are a mentor to many young ladies. Apart from those you have mentioned, can you share any other practical tips young ladies need to live by?
Recently, I have been burdened to tell as many young people, especially ladies that they should seek to know God for themselves, cultivate and carefully nurture a relationship with the first love himself. In my few years of living I have come to know that nothing in this world can ever satisfy. Jesus is the cup that won’t run dry and one of the greatest revelations you can ever have is the revelation of God’s love!!! You need to know that you know that God loves you. Nothing you do wrong will make Him love you less and nothing you do wrong will make you love Him more. Knowing this will help you in the good and not so good times.
Then most importantly building this relationship helps you sharpen your ability to discern with clarity, God’s voice especially (though not exclusively) when it comes to making big life decisions
Secondly, please gain value as much as you can, seek knowledge, read books attend gatherings that make you better. Grab opportunities to learn new things, skills, dishes, etc. we really cannot ignore the possibility of the need to quit a 9-5 job when it becomes inevitable (and many times I think most women are wired to do something we don’t like being idle. ) we don’t just sit at home. At such times the productive things we learn outside the four walls of a school become very handy.
This is very important for ladies who will be in Ministry or married to men in the ministry especially itenery ministers. But you know many times we don’t have the full picture and you will agree with me that it is wiser to learn and not get to use a skill than not being able to deliver. Ignorance is horrible please seek to know all you need to know and become all God created you to be.
Thirdly please prayerfully build friendships. True the world is full of all sorts of people and some people even believe that no one is to be trusted. But there are some amazing people too (just like the scripture talked about a remnant generation) we were made to need people and people need you too.
Find your own friends and be a great friend too. There is so much to say but let me say this finally. Do not fall into the trap of competition and comparison. Just like the Yoruba adage says that the sky is big enough for all birds to fly with it disturbing each other. Please celebrate your uniqueness. Be the best you were created to be.
What do you love about the Beautified Network?
The Beautified Network is a blessing indeed. I visited the blog sometime in January and I was greatly inspired. I read the interview with the beautified woman of the month, Eziaha and I knew how blessed we are in this generation with amazing women loving Jesus and blessing their world. This is my first interview and I want to say that these questions are really deep I had to search deeply to answer them correctly and I confess that they made me realize things I need to pay attention to. God bless Funto and The Beautified Network Team for this. Greater grace and enlarged sphere of influence in Jesus name. Amen.
What would you say is your biggest achievement so far and how has it shaped you?
This is one of the most challenging questions in this interview. I’m not sure what to say my biggest achievement is but when I looked at the second part of this question, I will like to say that God has helped me support my husband in the ministry more than my imagination. I really did not know what to expect at the beginning but this journey has built my faith indeed. More than anything else I have grown in my ability to believe God for the impossible.
What’s your advice for young ladies going into ministry?
Dear lady please know and never forget that you did not call yourself. God called you and He would take care of His ministry. You need to stay with Him for instructions, stay faithful, stay trusting, stay obedient and very importantly stay humble. Ministry is a call to serve God and be a blessing to people. Please be excellent at it. Abide in Him so you can bear much fruits and your fruits can abide.
Thank you! Thank you!! Thank you!!! Thank you to The Beautified Network for this honour.
We think we should be the ones thanking Virtuous Oak for this wealth of wisdom she just shared with us. We don’t even know where to start from. Is it the way she made us see what purpose means from a different point of view. “I have found purpose in being Oluwatimilehin Adigun’s wife, found purpose in being David, Esther and Samuel’s mom and found purpose in being a blessing to the younger generation so they don’t make the same mistakes.”
We think its also important to note what she said about how she and Pastor Timi have been media conscious for their children. By now you should know that no matter how busy you are your family is super important and your children should always be priority, next to God and your husband. What do they watch on TV, what songs do they listen to?
There’s so much more to learn and we think you’d have to be visiting this page regularly to remind yourself of all these salient points.
Thank you so much Ma for this.
BEAUTIFIED CONFESSIONS FOR THE WEEK – MARCH 13TH 2017
If you’ve never heard of family planning before or you are not exactly sure what it means, this definition should help.
Family planning is the concept of limiting the size of families through the spacing or prevention of pregnancies, especially for economic reasons.
The World Health Organization explains that the main advantage of family planning is that women and couples can avoid unwanted pregnancies, WHO advocates that with family planning, a woman can space out her pregnancies and limit her family size using different methods of contraceptives.
I believe some Christians have misconceptions about this verse in the Bible “Then God blessed them, saying, “Be fruitful and multiply. Let the fish fill the seas, and let the birds multiply on the earth.”” Genesis 1:22 NLT
Yes God wants us to be fruitful but we must be wise about our decisions
Let’s not forget Abraham had just one son and he was the father of many nations! You don’t have to give birth to so many children to be the mother of nations.
I don’t like it when parents have so many children and cannot cater for all of them. It is important to always consider the children before and after they have arrived.
It’s not right to bring children into the world to suffer. If you can’t care for them don’t birth them. 1Timothy 5:8.
There are different methods of family planning however before you choose one, you have to consider a few things.
Your health status
Your desire for children in the future ( If you want to still have children in the future you should not consider anything permanent for now)
Now you know about this and you are asking when do start family planning? My answer is this, have this discussion with you spouse and decide mutually. I can only advise that no form of birth control besides condom or withdrawal method should be used if you are yet to have any children, just to be on a safe side medically.
Almost everything in life has disadvantage we just always look for the least dangerous options and go with it. So also the different birth control or family planning methods have their disadvantages but by Gods grace none of these side effects will affect any of us in Jesus name. Amen.
For more details please go the sites listed or visit a gynaecologist.
Remain blessed till my next post.
Written By Tosin Opara
I am the content Creator/Brand manager for “Deestylefairy”. I am passionate about family, parenting and personal development, which are the values that my brand represents.
It was a beautiful Saturday morning, Laura was excited at the thought of spending the day with her husband and she had carefully picked out the delicacies she was going to prepare all through the day. But first, she had to get the chores done, she sang joyfully as she did her work. She was half way through the chores when her husband woke up and went into the living room to watch Television. Laura got really upset because she had expected him to assist her in getting the chores done. Rather than saying a word, her mood changed, her joy tunes became sigh tunes, her happy face became all rumpled and the more she moaned the longer the chores took. After another two hours, Laura finished the chores and refused talking to her husband, they had a slow and silent weekend. All that she had hoped the weekend would bring fizzled out before her eyes because she couldn’t savour the energy of joy. The cares of the world stole her joy.
‘The Joy of the Lord is my strength.’ Phrase so common, yet fast losing its power. We are presently in a world where the woman is losing the grace in her smile, she is always wearing a frown during chores and the sadness she carries is written all over her face. Even when she finds the strength to sing the tune ‘The joy of the Lord is my strength’ the joy tune is lost in her frown and she easily forgets that a frown weakens quicker than disease, so when she frowns as she goes on, she gets tired easily because the flavor of her work has become a distasteful wrap.
Life can be hard and tough. It may seem like the only way to get through it is to wear a frown. Every turning may appear to be a closed door and every path clouded by heavy darkness. Sometimes you think what it is the essence of it all, why am I here? What’s there to hope for?
When your desires seem like it’s never the will of God.
When all that seemingly brings you joy is everything heaven frowns at. And yet the bible says we should rejoice always.
The sane response to troubles, stress and pain doesn’t necessarily have to be sorrow and sadness. In the divine, there is an exchange therapy called Faith, that’s a topic for another day.
God is divine and you cannot search divinity in humanity. The joy I speak of is not the one that human and materials give it is the one that divinity creates.
Joy is searching answers from above. Joy is seeking solace in the arms of a loving saviour, taking cover in the wings of the creator, finding peace in the boat of the anchor. Joy is hoping on the promises of God. The Bible encourages us to count it all joy when we fall into diverse temptations. You know why we are counting it joy, because in the divine, hoping joyfully is what gives strength to handle it all.
Nehemiah 8:10 says the Joy of the Lord is my strength, this verse is simply telling us that the Lord’s joy is an energy booster. When we are soaked in Gods joy, it doesn’t matter the stress, the weakness, the pain, there’s is a strength from within and that strength is what keeps the engine going.
Yes life can be tough. Deaths come upon us suddenly, loved ones break our hearts in million pieces, doctors give unexplainable results, our partners get us angry and do not do things we expect all the time, relationships go sour, friendships die, finances rumble, children get involved in very destructive habits. But in the midst of every bad news, we must stay hopeful. One of the secrets to victory is Joy. One of the weapons of warfare that the enemy is yet to conquer is the weapon of joy. There is a strength that comes with joy, it makes you capable of doing the things you never thought you would. It is like been intoxicated. Believers ought to be high on joy 24/7.
If your husband doesn’t notice your sacrifice, smile and point it out in joy, if your children fail to please you, don’t be too quick to wear the scary face, when finances are low, rejoice in the hope of a coming blessing. It is an act of disbelief to always wear a frown and carry a heavy heart immediately when there’s trouble. While I know that there is a time when it is inevitable, there are times when we abuse the ability to wear a frown. Many problems have been solved by a smile, a cheer, a dance, a joyful leap.
Please begin to practise the art of rejoicing. Practise makes perfect. The joytune is easy to learn, you only need to start right now, by smiling, snapping your fingers and shaking your head. The strength to overcome and be better is in the strength that the joy of the divine has made available. That joy is an energizer.
There is something about the Lord’s joy, the energy that comes from it, it is so powerful that it makes even the weakest of soul to leap with excitement when a call for the brave is made. That joy is spiritually contagious,You need get infected.Don’t be the WORRYSICK Frown wearing woman, be the JOYCURE woman.
From a believer to another, all of life is only going to matter when we end it at the feet of Jesus. But the soul that isn’t lost in the troubles of the world but lost in the joy of the Lord is the one with the greatest gain. Get high on JoyNergy.